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refusal of care

Question
My son, soon 21, takes very irregularly his treatments. I have to remind him every day and this is a source of conflict. He can be very aggressive. Apparently he does not assumes his care, does not go to the pharmacy does not prepare his medication. He refuses to talk to a professional. What to do in this case? Am I the only one to experience these problems?
thank you in advance
Answer
Dear Madam,
You should not worry, you are not alone in this situation of denial of care when children / patients arrive for some in their teens and others to adulthood and begin a revolt / rebellion that results in a mess or a refusal of care. This is the time when parents need to "drop" the care of their teens / young adults to avoid a certain "degradation" as to the observance of care.
This is a difficult time for parents who experience helplessly a worrysome change. It is a period often unavoidable but necessary for some patients to be able to take ownership of their disease and their care. However, each patient and each family is unique and reacts singularly.
You may be able to meet with the psychologist of the CF centre, even if your son refuses to go. This meeting will accompany you and help you to think and accept the changes in family dynamics. This can also be an opportunity to find other indirect ways to help your son on topics unrelated to treatment.
Hope these tips will help you find ways to resolve conflicts.

Sincerely,
Dr Sophie Ravilly and Araxie Matossian (psychologist Brussels)
13.12.2011