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Neglect of therapy by one parent

Dear expert team,
I have the problem, that my former partner and father of my children neglects strongly the CF therapy and hygiene rules and my CF son has frequently infections after having visited his father. The actual infection (after 2 visits of a swimming pool with strong undercooling) is endangering a planned operation and a rehabilitation afterwards.
Direct communication is not functioning. To the question, what has happened, the answer followed.:“the fever would be psychological”.
In former days, the father (engineer) cared a lot for his son and took therapy for serious. That means one could assume, that he is involved in the topic, as we have the last 3 years managed it together.
In the meantime, he is taking it not for serious, partly does not give Kreon….I just do not know anymore what to do, because for me, it is turning more and more in endangering the health of the child, however I do not want to risk the father-son relationship.
What could I do, who could I involve, in order to sensitize him for the topic?
I would be pleased about a recommendation from your side.
Best regards,
Dear questioner,
because of the separation of parents a situation might occur, that therapeutical measures are conducted differently. Reasons my be inadequate information on the picture of the illness and/or on the acutal needed therapeutical measures. It would be helpful, if both parents (if possible together) would make a detailed therapeutic plan that is necessary for the child togehter with the physician in charge during a talk. Hereby it could alkso be clarified, which therapeutical measures are mandatory and should not be necgelcted at all. This would also be an important signal for your child, that both parents are working together and both ends cannot be played against the middle.
If a common talk is not possible, the partner living alone should always get an actual therapeutic plan from the physician. Your former partner seems to have regular contact to your son, therefore it can be assumed, that he is caring for the welfare of his son. Probably conflicts could be avoided via a thoroughly made therapeutic plan.
Best wishes,
Gabriele Becker